Fans need to stop being so anxious when it comes to Britney and what she’s doing

[knee Queen of pop]

Everyday I come on here I see a new thread where there are a bunch of fans “worried” about Britney and occasionally there are a few intelligent ones that know this just makes no sense.

Why though? Why do so many fans keep insisting something is off?

Let me just make one thing very clear now: We don’t know Britney. She’s not our friend. She is her own person and we don’t (and shouldn’t) have any control over her. If you feel something about her is out of your control: good! It shouldn’t be.

It makes me sad to see so many people insisting that Britney owes them something, be it music, content or explanations. For 15 years she’s had an extremely public life and finally, she has her own privacy. Why do y’all want that to be taken away? Why are you scared of being left in the dark by someone you DON’T know? Leave her be. Whatever issues she may or may not have are HER issues.

That’s not the point I’m trying to make tho - I genuinely wanna know why some people are constantly worried for her. A lot of so called “fans” say she’s troubled, that they don’t recognize her, that they feel sad about her etc., but I really wanna know WHY. Britney has shown us countless times in the past 3 years that she knows how to take care of herself as a free woman. She hasn’t put anyone or herself in danger. She has showcased her resilience multiple times in the past 20 years. Whatever she’s got going on, she can pass right through it. Y’all underestimate her strength and it shows.

So what is it that makes everyone worried? Dancing videos??? Seriously? Out of all things you could possibly be worried about, you worry about her dancing at the comfort of her own home because it’s a hobby she’s had all her life and it makes her feel good… (fun fact: dancing has been scientifically proven to help battle depression ❤️). I really don’t get it. Everyone has hobbies and they can share them. I can’t think of any possible explanation for that other than y’all only wanting her to be free in case she chooses to do something to ENTERTAIN you.

I won’t be unrealistic and say Britney is the happiest woman in the world currently - she’s not (NOBODY is always happy). She’s been VOCAL that she still struggles with anxiety and depression after the conservatorship. But guess what? MILLIONS of people struggle with that worldwide. They’re not alone. But it doesn’t mean these people can’t be happy and do good, and they don’t get their sanity or their well-being questioned every time they do something that makes them feel good. Britney isn’t perfect, she still struggles, but what matters is that she’s learning to LIVE with her struggles and not letting them control her life. She still does her own thing, she goes on vacations, she still has passion for the things she loves - she’s shown us she can still be happy even if she also has struggles she chooses not to share with us.

If you want her to forget her trauma or whatever - be real and accept that it’s not gonna happen. Abuse victims never forget it, as I said before, they just learn not to let their trauma stop them from living.
To sum it all up my last message is: If you weren’t worried for Britney while she was severely struggling during the cship with depression and anxiety ALL while not being free just cause she still did music, had a few stylists and kept your butts entertained, then don’t be worried or her now that she’s free, has less struggles than she used to while other people controlled her and can actually take control of her narrative and what she does with her struggles. 🌹

[AII]

I don't think we are necessarily worried. I think we are just sick of seeing it. Yes we can unfollow but we won't. It's like this weird addiction to. We love to hate it.

 

[Armchairrevolution]

Britney is a survivor of human trafficking. Call it a conservatorship if you want but it is what it is. 

Very very few people will ever comprehend what enduring that does to a human or the emotional and mental trauma that comes with it. 

It's not something you just get over. It stays with you. 

The betrayal, the anger, the disgust, the shame, the isolation, the ptsd. 

She's shown very little empathy or understanding by the public or even her fans who expect her to just snap out of it and be who she was prior to the abuse.

It's actually disgusting seeing so much judgement thrown on this woman who is learning how to cope with what has been done to her. 

The very people who criticized the treatment she got from the media in the 2000s are now doing the same thing today but worse. 

You wouldn't crap on a double leg amputee for taking their time learning to live without legs so why is it ok to criticize a human trafficking victim for learning to live with the abuse and trauma they have endured. 

Peoples attitudes towards mental health are as disgusting as ever. 

Everyone pretends to deeply care about mental health as long as the person with mental health issues are smiling happy shiny people but if the second they struggle society is ready to burn them at the stake. 

 

[PokemonSpears]

the worst part is that, I could understand they're worried (not really, but I could put a lot of effort in giving them a pass), but what is absolutely the most insane and absurd thing in the world is that the basis for their worry is some instagram posts. As if 30 seconds of footage could give us an accurate picture of anything. As if having a "normal instagram" back then was a sign that everything was alright within the conservatorship.

Then when she stops posting for a few days, then she's being isolated, she's depressed, she's having an episode, when it turns out she was just on vacation with a hot guy.

It's the assumption of millions of things based on literally nothing what really pisses me off.

Edited March 29 by PokemonSpears

[Agyness]

I don't feel anxious like in 2007, I feel tired. 

[---]

30 minutes ago, AII said:

I don't think we are necessarily worried. I think we are just sick of seeing it. Yes we can unfollow but we won't. It's like this weird addiction to. We love to hate it.

 

thank you for saying exactly what it is: a bunch of mentally ill bullies hyper-fixating and objectifying a woman's entire existence; keeping a checklist of every time she steps outside of their ever moving goalpost so they can snicker and scoff under the guise of concern. they want to control what people think about her and by proxy want to control what she does.

[super.nova]

I am going through a difficult time in my life and I have learned that a lot can make sense when you’re in a certain state of mind, so I have learned to be more respectful and empathize more.

I have also learned that we need to mind our business a little bit more and deal with the things that are in front of us much more than we need to judge Britney.

I love this site but it’s healthy to take a break from it from time to time and not get too caught up in the conversation or in what’s going on with Britney.

I have also learned that we don’t need to have an opinion on everything and everyone, and that not all threads are to be open, or participated in. It is sometimes healthy to ignore some things.

Edited March 29 by super.nova

[knee Queen of pop]

11 minutes ago, PokemonSpears said:

the worst part is that, I could understand they're worried (not really, but I could put a lot of effort in giving them a pass), but what is absolutely the most insane and absurd thing in the world is that the basis for their worry is some instagram posts. As if 30 seconds of footage could give us an accurate picture of anything. As if having a "normal instagram" back then was a sign that everything was alright within the conservatorship.

Then when she stops posting for a few days, then she's being isolated, she's depressed, she's having an episode, when it turns out she was just on vacation with a hot guy.

It's the assumption of millions of things based on literally nothing what really pisses me off.

Spot on 💯 it’s absolutely insane to think her life is defined by a few Instagram videos. Especially when even she has said she considers herself boring in real life

[Armchairrevolution]

2 minutes ago, super.nova said:

I am going through a difficult time in my life and I have learned that a lot can make sense when you’re in a certain state of mind, so I have learned to be more respectful and empathize more.

I have also learned that we need to mind our business a little bit more and deal with the things that are in front of us much more than we need to judge Britney.

I love this site but it’s healthy to take a break from it from time to time and not get too caught up in the conversation or in what’s going on with Britney.

I have also learned that we don’t need to have an opinion on everything and everyone, and that not all threads are to be open, or participated in. It is sometimes healthy to ignore some things.

 

Right? We can have opinions on someone's music or videos or outfits or sales but dissecting how an abuse surviver recovers from their abuse and lives their life? None of our business. 

As long as Britneys not crashing a car into my pool party we're good... And even if she does... Bruh... What an entrance! 

[KrisJ]

It’s more embarrassment for her than anxiousness. A middle aged woman posing and stretching her legs to show her pu$$ to random strangers. Not sure what type of “rebellion” that is..

Edited March 29 by KrisJ

[Armchairrevolution]

4 minutes ago, KrisJ said:

It’s more embarrassment for her than anxiousness. A middle aged woman posing and stretching her legs to show her pu$$ to random strangers. Not sure what type of “rebellion” that is..

You typed your review of Madonnas latest tour into a britney thread. 

[sykology]

Her videos seem manic. Sometimes she looks disheveled. She erratically grabs her breasts. Her posts sometimes make absolutely no sense. 
 

If she was someone you knew in your Instagram feed, you would think there was something wrong with this person. Because it’s one of the biggest celebs in the world, it’s even more bizarre. 

[AII]

38 minutes ago, --- said:

they want to control

Not control. Just express 🥰🥰

[knee Queen of pop]

29 minutes ago, KrisJ said:

It’s more embarrassment for her than anxiousness. A middle aged woman posing and stretching her legs to show her pu$$ to random strangers. Not sure what type of “rebellion” that is..

Have you ever considered that it ISN’T a rebellion and she just feels good doing it though? Not everything is so deep. If she wants to pose naked then it’s just because she feels **** doing it even if to us it isn’t the most aesthetically pleasing picture.

[turquoise]

That's right.
What she shows on her Instagram is only a small part of her life, and she's smart enough to put secret messages on that Instagram sometimes.
I'm sick and tired of seeing people who don't even realize it and are rude to her in a superior way, calling it concern.
Let's just think how happy we are that she's showing us a part of her life.

[knee Queen of pop]

15 minutes ago, sykology said:

Her videos seem manic. Sometimes she looks disheveled. She erratically grabs her breasts. Her posts sometimes make absolutely no sense. 
 

If she was someone you knew in your Instagram feed, you would think there was something wrong with this person. Because it’s one of the biggest celebs in the world, it’s even more bizarre. 

“Erratically” grabs her breasts?… yup I’ve heard it all. Good thing is she ISN’T someone we know. We don’t know her. I for sure won’t crucify a woman, call her manic and give her all sorts of diagnosis based on how she grabs her breasts. Doja Cat literally swinged her ***** around in an Instagram live and nobody said anything (and they shouldn’t). We might not understand why Britney does what she does but we can for sure get an answer: she feels good doing it (have y’all even read her book?). I also dance in front of my mirror and do goofy poses every once in a while because it makes me feel happy. Doesn’t mean I’m manic (or else this has been a loooong as* manic episode, same for Britney).

Most of her posts make absolute sense if you try to understand it too. When you start thinking of her as a 40yo auntie writing about her day to day life in a journal everything makes more sense.

[turquoise]

She grabs her breasts, at first it was awkward for me to see that, but lately I've gotten used to it and now it just looks cute.

Other celebrities have been posting more and more nude-like posts lately, maybe Britney's presence had some influence.

She inspires others just by being herself, she's really amazing.

[BlackoutBaby]

I don't get why. There's now a certain perception of Britney out there, and she keeps feeding into it. For what?

It's been 4 or 5 years of this now and if anything she just seems to be upping the ante, rather than getting it out of her system.

Britney has retired relatively early, with an estate that has to keep her the rest of her days, but she shows next to no interest in upkeeping it. If it ever gets to the point where she needs to work again to pay her bills, how might this current behaviour affect future work contracts or deals?

I think however that since a young age Britney was taught that the less she wore, and more outrageous she was, the more she would be 'rewarded' with attention, rather than being in the shadow of somebody else. I think I first became aware of her due to the RS cover, and when she was on local news it was usually because of her provocative award show performances. But she had more to offer than that and now it feels like she's selling herself short.

Nobody expects anything better of Kim K, because she can't really do anything else. But even Kim nowadays makes Britney look like something of an amateur.

Sorry, I just think there's a lot going on with Britney. She probably finds it very difficult to trust and so might I in her situation. I hope for her sake she will make her way through it, it feels a bit bad to watch it all unfold on social media.

[knee Queen of pop]

3 minutes ago, BlackoutBaby said:

I don't get why. There's now a certain perception of Britney out there, and she keeps feeding into it. For what?

It's been 4 or 5 years of this now and if anything she just seems to be upping the ante, rather than getting it out of her system.

Britney has retired relatively early, with an estate that has to keep her the rest of her days, but she shows next to no interest in upkeeping it. If it ever gets to the point where she needs to work again to pay her bills, how might this current behaviour affect future work contracts or deals?

I think however that since a young age Britney was taught that the less she wore, and more outrageous she was, the more she would be 'rewarded' with attention, rather than being in the shadow of somebody else. I think I first became aware of her due to the RS cover, and when she was on local news it was usually because of her provocative award show performances. But she had more to offer than that and now it feels like she's selling herself short.

Nobody expects anything better of Kim K, because she can't really do anything else. But even Kim nowadays makes Britney look like something of an amateur.

Sorry, I just think there's a lot going on with Britney. She probably finds it very difficult to trust and so might I in her situation. I hope for her sake she will make her way through it, it feels a bit bad to watch it all unfold on social media.

Watch what unfold though? As someone else has previously said here, her 1 minute videos don’t define a 24 hour day. Britney doesn’t spend her day spinning in her living room or goes out wearing nothing but a peasant top and some bikini bottoms. The sooner people realize that, the better. Britney is just like any of us when she logs off of social media - a normal person that does day to day tasks and has some struggles just like anybody else. Sure, her struggles might be greater than some other people’s - we don’t know - but that doesn’t dehumanize her or make her less sane. People with mental health struggles live normal lives as they learn to cope with it.

[icybaby]

I think some people feel so connected to her like she is their friend. And then they see smth on her insta they just think if their friend is ok. Not saying it is healthy but sometimes we feel compassion for strangers. People have complex feelings. It is obvious her actions and pics triggers us for some reason. And that is smth we should be working on