Not a twink, not yet a daddy

[Crazy4BRITNEY3.2]

Is it just me or is being in your 30s like being in a limbo when it comes to being a gay man? Let me explain. I've always been considered good looking and I never had to struggle to hook up with anyone I wanted. My Grindr was literally on fire throughout my 20s, and my skinny body was a hit at the bars and on the apps. Every weekend was all about jumping from D to D to D, and it always turned out to be a match ANYTIME I swiped right. I truly had the best 20s.

Fast forward to my early 30s—with my body still slim but no longer twinkie-skinny à la Troye Sivan, and some veiled little lines on my forehead (nothing retinoids can't fix)—my Grindr has become almost a desert. I've noticed a significant decline in guys' interest in me, with daddies (who have always been after me) often not even coming back to my messages. It's demoralising, and shocking, especially as it's such a drastic situation compared to just 4 or 5 years ago.

I talked about it with a friend, and he said apparently it happens to all gays in their 30s as everyone is either into twinks or daddies. Another friend of mine in his late 40s, who's extremely handsome, confirmed this 'rule', saying he's never hooked up and had so many guys after him like he does these days.

So, is this how it works then? That it's a twinks and daddies' world, and everyone in between just has to wait to become more of a daddy to successfully shop around again? Is anyone else experiencing the same or has noticed something similar?

Signed, a former twink.

Edited August 8, 2023 by Crazy4BRITNEY3.0

[No Seas Cortes]

[Wendy Williams]

You can reduce your age in grindr

[Crazy4BRITNEY3.2]

19 minutes ago, Henry. said:

[Wendy Williams]

17 minutes ago, Henry. said:

I understand, cuz at your 70+ it's hard to find a young twink.

 

[Viking84]

Go to the gym and get some muscles. That will do the trick.

[Wendy Williams]

35 minutes ago, Crazy4BRITNEY3.0 said:

Is it just me or is being in your 30s like being in a limbo when it comes to being a gay man? Let me explain. I've always been considered good looking and I never had to struggle to hook up with anyone I wanted. My Grindr was literally on fire throughout my 20s, and my skinny body was a hit at the bars and on the apps. Every weekend was all about jumping from D to D to D, and it always turned out to be a match ANYTIME I swiped right. I truly had the best 20s.

Fast forward to my early 30s—with my body still slim but no longer twinkie-skinny à la Troye Sivan, and some veiled little lines on my forehead (nothing retinoids can't fix)—my Grindr has become almost a desert. I've noticed a significant decline in guys' interest in me, with daddies (who have always been after me) often not even coming back to my messages. It's demoralising, and shocking, especially as it's such a drastic situation compared to just 4 or 5 years ago.

I talked about it with a friend, and he said apparently it happens to all gays in their 30s as everyone is either into twinks or daddies. Another friend of mine in his late 40s, who's extremely handsome, confirmed this 'rule', saying he's never hooked up and had so many guys after him like he does these days.

So, is this how it works then? That it's a twinks and daddies' world, and everyone in between just has to wait to become more of a daddy to successfully shop around again? Is anyone else experiencing the same or has noticed something similar?

Signed, a former twink.

Maybe it's motivation to try harder and not have everything so easy, to impress others in a different way and to stop with superficial dates.

[No Seas Cortes]

11 minutes ago, Crazy4BRITNEY3.0 said:

[Crazy4BRITNEY3.2]

4 minutes ago, Henry. said:

[No Seas Cortes]

9 minutes ago, Crazy4BRITNEY3.0 said:

[Wendy Williams]

27 minutes ago, Henry. said:

 

23 minutes ago, Crazy4BRITNEY3.0 said:

 

13 minutes ago, Henry. said:

Haven't you seen the movie "Love Happens (2009)"?

 

[Tanjiro Kamadu]

1 hour ago, Crazy4BRITNEY3.0 said:

Is it just me or is being in your 30s like being in a limbo when it comes to being a gay man? Let me explain. I've always been considered good looking and I never had to struggle to hook up with anyone I wanted. My Grindr was literally on fire throughout my 20s, and my skinny body was a hit at the bars and on the apps. Every weekend was all about jumping from D to D to D, and it always turned out to be a match ANYTIME I swiped right. I truly had the best 20s.

Fast forward to my early 30s—with my body still slim but no longer twinkie-skinny à la Troye Sivan, and some veiled little lines on my forehead (nothing retinoids can't fix)—my Grindr has become almost a desert. I've noticed a significant decline in guys' interest in me, with daddies (who have always been after me) often not even coming back to my messages. It's demoralising, and shocking, especially as it's such a drastic situation compared to just 4 or 5 years ago.

I talked about it with a friend, and he said apparently it happens to all gays in their 30s as everyone is either into twinks or daddies. Another friend of mine in his late 40s, who's extremely handsome, confirmed this 'rule', saying he's never hooked up and had so many guys after him like he does these days.

So, is this how it works then? That it's a twinks and daddies' world, and everyone in between just has to wait to become more of a daddy to successfully shop around again? Is anyone else experiencing the same or has noticed something similar?

Signed, a former twink.

Edited August 8, 2023 by Tanjiro Kamadu

[MikeHunt]

[Cancer]

It's an aspect of dating that's creepy, and honestly reminiscient of pederasty, a social custom in which an adult male would court a young Greek boy...

Sadly, the older male/younger female hetero***ual pairing is creepily common as well.

Sounds like you need less D and more knowledge.

[Justaboy]

In gay universe , when you are 30, you are actually seen as 90yo. You are not a twink or a daddy yet. The limbo is real. But hang in there. When you reach, 50yo, the greedy hungry twinks will want a hot daddy. Just 20 more years to go..... 

[Wendy Williams]

10 minutes ago, MikeHunt said:

[Wendy Williams]

31 minutes ago, MikeHunt said:

I don't want to bash your post, but I guess I saw these 2 guys in xvideos, that "older" one more than 100000% yes  

[MikeHunt]

10 minutes ago, Flavor Of Love said:

I don't want to bash your post, but I guess I saw these 2 guys in xvideos, that "older" one more than 100000% yes  

Is he a skilled lover? What’s his name?

[Wendy Williams]

20 minutes ago, MikeHunt said:

Is he a skilled lover? What’s his name?

I think logan carter? Not sure, but seen him 1000000% there in some video.

 

[princessmimi]