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Psychologist Dr Audrey Tang, author of The Leader’s Guide to Resilience, told FEMAIL that the exhibitionist snaps could be a sign of Britney still trying to find a way to break free following the 13-year conservatorship placed upon her by her father. Dr Audrey Tang told FEMAIL: 'The latest photos might seem like a cry for help but I'm not sure Britney is even thinking in that way. 'She's still processing the conservatorship and her life since she was a child star - when you've been gaslit for that long, you often emerge not knowing who you are.' Therapy can help get her life back on track though, Dr Tang says, with the help of a technique known as acceptance and commitment therapy. She explains: 'It's about not going over the coercive control again, but understanding why she feels the need to post these photos now. I believe Britney's still in a form of survival mode, just because the conservatorship has ended, it doesn't mean that she's stopped fighting. 'If she stops fighting for a minute, and sit with her emotions, she'll recognise that the need to post such images is probably 'urge-surfing' to fill a void. Therapy is about trying to choose a different behaviour to answer the gap that's happening. 'It's not easy to get through the multitude of emotions someone might feel after being in a situation like this - it's similar with divorce - but you can find ways to begin to understand how you chose to survive and how those choices don't need to keep happening again.' Dr Tang also suggested the star may be 'urge-surfing', finding impulsive ways to get attention from fans. Since the legal battle, which made headlines across the globe and saw Spears given back control over her finances, and medical and personal decisions, the singer has announced an engagement, her pregnancy and been vocal about how she thought her head 'might explode' at being censored by the 13-year-long conservatorship. Dr Tang explains: 'When you've got someone who's grown up with a very scripted lifestyle, you've got someone who's never learned what freedom is actually like. 'The problem is she can't learn to do that now in a safe space and experiment, so she's playing it all out in the public eye. And because it's Britney, the fall-out is going to be a lot bigger than it would be for anyone else. It's like a mid-life crisis times ten.' 'She's grown in up in the public eye, and she's adapted her life to need that attention - if you haven't been able to get it in any other way, that's the way you do it. 'A child who knows that they succeed in something will get there parents love and it's the same sort of thing here. Britney thinks "If I post something that gets me likes, that's something that will get me attention and likes"'. 'On the issue of maturing of decisions and making choices, she's probably still in her twenties. She hasn't been able to go through any of that, she's aged but she's not grown. You can't expect someone to just grown up 20 years. Dr Tang says that even with a crack team of therapists and psychologists around her, Britney may still not be ready to listen to them because she wants to finally be able to make her own mistakes. Dr Tang says it's likely to be hard for the 28-year-old Iranian personal trainer to intervene because he fears appearing controlling like her father. She says: 'He'll be in a very awkward situation because he wants to give her a choice. He doesn't want to be the same as her dad. 'He will have been that support who she could trust and turn to - he's likely to not want to emulate the control of her father. If her need for validation and attention isn't fulfilled, then his advice, no matter how good it is, isn't going to be listened to.' https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-10800451/amp/Psychologist-says-Britney-Spears-naked-shots-40-regaining-control-conservatorship.html

We all have those songs that speak to us, sometimes, it's as if the artist is literally singing about out personality. What would those lyrics be for you? It doesn't have to be by Britney (completely up to you). In my case, it's the song Gimme What I Want by Miley: Pleasure leads to pain To me, they're both the same Sweat drippin' down to the floor Bite marks like an animal You might be insane But maybe we're the same I don't need a future, I don't need your past I just need a lover So gimme what I want or I'll give it to my- Self-inflicted torture, you don't have to ask I just need a lover So gimme what I want or I'll give it to myself