Do you ever experience what’s Britney experiencing for years?

[rebellion_is_the_way]

I’m talking about the complete harsh criticism and bad mouthing that you experienced during a period of your life. Britney, obviously, criticized her whole life. We are probably not experienced the level of disappointment she endured during her life time. She likes to sing and dance, people criticize her of lip syncing, not dancing good enough, not being the proper celebrity that the society wants her to be. 
I feel like my friend group do that most of the time. Since being a gay guy, I’ve always felt like I can’t fulfill “ the man” image my friends and society want me to fulfill. They always find something that is either too gay or not good for “ the man image”.

Britney must feel disappointed after as some of us fans that helped freebritney movement but didn’t like the person she wants to be in her daily life. We’re criticizing her make up, hair, dresses, voice, thoughts, posts, reactions. 
what we are missing is, individually nobody is the same. Not every circumstances are the same. 
I used to think that when I wear my pink beach shorts to the beach, everybody was looking at me because my mom told me that pink is a girly colour. As being an adult and gaining self confidence, I realized that not every person will like us. I only have to be in a environment that supports whats I do comes within, comes naturally. If that environment is only me, that’s also fine. I can’t change myself or what comes naturally just to have fake friend groups.
I experience the some stuff from my job environment as well. All of them are picture perfect washed up american families. Go to school, score high points, graduate at 22, get promoted by 25 and make babies. This form of living always comes boring to me. It’s like people are not even that happy to have these elements but they’re still criticizing people for not being like them. 
Britney also not like other pop chicks. She’s not playing everything by the book and she has her own opinions, own sense of style that she likes to see on herself, own style of dancing. 
do you guys relate to Britney on this? What’s your experiences like and how did you overcome them?

[severusvape]

Ofcourse, everyone gets criticized and judged. That’s what people do, even if we not say it out loudly, we do it on a daily basis. Even if it’s in your head only. 
 

That’s why you need to learn to not give a bleep about what other people think. Just be you, and the right people will come along. Be and do what’s right for you, not what other people may expect from you. Life’s way too short for that. 
 

I’ve learned this the hard way, I’m 30 now and took me years to get this. And when you do, it’s truly freeing. 

[rebellion_is_the_way]

12 minutes ago, rck92 said:

Ofcourse, everyone gets criticized and judged. That’s what people do, even if we not say it out loudly, we do it on a daily basis. Even if it’s in your head only. 
 

That’s why you need to learn to not give a bleep about what other people think. Just be you, and the right people will come along. Be and do what’s right for you, not what other people may expect from you. Life’s way too short for that. 
 

I’ve learned this the hard way, I’m 30 now and took me years to get this. And when you do, it’s truly freeing. 

Well said , maybe there might be young exhalers that do not know that there is another world after being crucially criticized. You’re good enough.

[severusvape]

6 minutes ago, rebellion_is_the_way said:

Well said , maybe there might be young exhalers that do not know that there is another world after being crucially criticized. You’re good enough.

Ofcourse you are good enough. 
 

Try not to compare yourself to others too much. I know it’s easier said than done, especially with social media. I deleted my instagram 3 years ago and I don’t miss it one bit. Tiktok I don’t even use. It feels good.

Focus on yourself and what you want in life, everyone has their own path. You are you, you can accomplish enough. It’s all about the mindset, but when you start comparing yourself… that’s where the negative spiral begins. No need for that. Be you!

[The Dream]

As you wrote in different sizes comparing to her, I have been critisised and judged from people, and they still do but as you get older maybe they don't do it so vocally? Or maybe you learn how not to give them enough space to do? However you know what they think of you..

Even when I did consider myself to be at my best inside out, there were opinions.

But as you get older you know your worth and as you realise how different you are from the people around you, your confidence grows.

And as you say those perfect families etc are people who don't seem happy with their routines, while I would love people to stop complaining and own their achievements.

The thing is you need extra effort when their words have come into you and you have give them right.

But at the end of the day, no one can take away what is yours and sooner or later you will use it.

That's why I am such a Britney supporter, no matter what, she has let no one take away her gifts.

They even don't like the book cover, when it's "Primeney" who everyone adores.

1 hour ago, rebellion_is_the_way said:

I only have to be in a environment that supports whats I do comes within, comes naturally. If that environment is only me, that’s also fine.

I loved this quote, so inspiring. 

Keep doing what your heart and mind wants with respect to yourself and gradually lets all try not to care about others.

25 minutes ago, rck92 said:

Try not to compare yourself to others too much. I know it’s easier said than done, especially with social media. I deleted my instagram 3 years ago and I don’t miss it one bit.

2 months without social because I decided I really dont care what they eat, where they swim etc. Especially when I know that they are not in the moment but they do it to show it. Well there are 2 types, the one who entertain and the one who observe and I decided to be none of them. I don't know what I ll do if a Britney era is upon us tho. 😂

[cillaward]

I can relate to this post quite a lot, as I'm sure a lot of other gay men can too.

I'd encourage you to read a book called "The Velvet Rage" - It talks about exactly what you've described. I'm reading it at the minute and it's been so eye opening for me 

[Hamelia]

You guys are very thoughtful. I have experienced negative attitude towards me but never to that extent. I credit my father for giving me a secure sense of self-worth throughout my childhood and teen years.  

 

[Crazy4BRITNEY3.3]

gurl...

[Princessmimi]

Well when it comes to criticism, judgment and even being forced to do something against your will, YES!

My 20s have been the WORST decade of my life due to severe trauma from horrible things especially when it comes to relationships.

 

I’ve been critized, judged, s.lutshamed, told I’m going to hell, made fun of and gaslit by my family and other people.

I’m suprised that I’m even still alive at this point.

 

Even though yes I have went to therapy and gotten the help I needed, trauma like that especially as a woman in her 20s NEVER completely goes away.

The only difference is that I’m not depressed and suicidal anymore.

I don’t victimize myself and I have overcome a lot.

I mean yes my life isn’t exactly what I want to be but it sure as hell is much more stable and better than like 5-10 years ago.