how did she survive the last 13 years?

[uwannapieceofme]

literally how the hell did she survive this? i think about her situation so often. i can’t imagine being a literal mega star, having your whole life ahead of you with millions to spend however you would like and being so young, and then your abusive dad comes along and literally enslaves you without being able to do anything to stop it. i think of what state of mind she must’ve been in, or if she had to say mantras to help herself to calm down because the thought of what was happening to her and  her unable to do anything about it would literally send ANYONE into a panic spiral and into a screaming crying attack, i can already feel my face getting hot just thinking about how awful that would feel. i wonder if in her head she thought that she would speak out when her boys turned 18 because that was how she was mainly threatened by jamie to stay trapped? that’s the only reason that makes sense to me as to why she wouldn’t have spoken out sooner, besides how deathly threatened and scared she was.

 

like did she ever have any remotely happy days over the last 13 years? it makes me sad to think that. she must’ve had somewhat good days in order to help her cope with what was happening? i can’t imagine her staying quiet while having every day be a literal hell on earth, but at the same time i feel like that’s what might have happened :( it confuses me in 2016 interviews when she said she loves her 30s and is so happy?, i don’t know i just wonder how she coped daily with, at the time,  thinking this was how the rest of her life was going to be. i give her major props for coping through this whole thing. i mean 13 years is SUCH. A. LONG. TIME. i’m literally 18 and i think about how this is literally the time length from when i gained consciousness to now. it feels so incredibly long because it IS. i feel so bad that she lost a decade of being free. i pray for jail for jamie.

[Hamelia]

It's a good question. After the first problems, she saw her kids often. She wrote that she had them 70% of the time when they were in elementary school. (She gave the ages which coincide with elementary school years.)

She loves to dance and entertain, and she is a hard worker, that must have sustained her. In the beginning, she had a fiancé, and according to fan reports she was told that the conservatorship would end, but it didn't. It was made permanent. That hope fizzled so did the fiancé.

Around 2015/16, she had a boyfriend who probably told her that the conservatorship was not necessary. All this time, she was afraid they would not let her see her kids if she did not behave like they wanted. This must have heavily weighed on her, but she trudged on like a good trouper until they sent her to "that place". 

How do you survive? With a backbone of steel. With a supportive boyfriend. I know many people don't like Asghari, but I credit him as her anchor when her kids barely acknowledged her anymore. 

 

 

 

[hallucinate]

Because she’s tough as ****. Anyone else who went through that would be dead by now.

[Arianna]

I can’t imagine your literal abuser controlling every aspect of your life - that is horrifying.

[uwannapieceofme]

38 minutes ago, Hamelia said:

It's a good question. After the first problems, she saw her kids often. She wrote that she had them 70% of the time when they were in elementary school. (She gave the ages which coincide with elementary school years.)

She loves to dance and entertain, and she is a hard worker, that must have sustained her. In the beginning, she had a fiancé, and according to fan reports she was told that the conservatorship would end, but it didn't. It was made permanent. That hope fizzled so did the fiancé.

Around 2015/16, she had a boyfriend who probably told her that the conservatorship was not necessary. All this time, she was afraid they would not let her see her kids if she did not behave like they wanted. This must have heavily weighed on her, but she trudged on like a good trouper until they sent her to "that place". 

How do you survive? With a backbone of steel. With a supportive boyfriend. I know many people don't like Asghari, but I credit him as her anchor when her kids barely acknowledged her anymore. 

 

 

 

yes to all of that, and i also totally agree on the asghari part, i feel like he really helped her have someone to trust while everyone else around her was a fake snake.

[uwannapieceofme]

19 minutes ago, hallucinate said:

Because she’s tough as ****. Anyone else who went through that would be dead by now.

i admire her strength so much, my poor baby

[uwannapieceofme]

4 minutes ago, Arianna said:

I can’t imagine your literal abuser controlling every aspect of your life - that is horrifying.

it sends mf CHILLS up my spine just thinking about that, she has strength beyond words to be able to cope with that. like another commenter said, most people would’ve died from this type of mental abuse 

[Jup1ter]

Because she was served with gossip

[uwannapieceofme]

5 minutes ago, shya said:

Because she was served with gossip

girl…. u must be on the wrong thread sista

[Style. In Moscow]

Great question! Maybe should we interview Britney instead of Oprah? 

[uwannapieceofme]

15 minutes ago, Style. said:

Great question! Maybe should we interview Britney instead of Oprah? 

you spilled. you be oprah i’ll be gayle taking notes in the corner bestie

[GlitterRain]

I don’t know… I don’t know 

[Style. In Moscow]

Just now, uwannapieceofme said:

you spilled. you be oprah i’ll be gayle taking notes in the corner bestie

Yas! What would be the first question? 

[uwannapieceofme]

21 minutes ago, GlitterRain said:

I don’t know… I don’t know 

[uwannapieceofme]

22 minutes ago, Style. said:

Yas! What would be the first question? 

we can bring out jamie robin and lou all tied up on chairs and ask her which one would she like to spit in their face first! 

[Abdul]

9 minutes ago, uwannapieceofme said:

we can bring out jamie robin and lou all tied up on chairs and ask her which one would she like to spit in their face first! 

Which one she like to slap in the face first Iam sure that what Britney want now  

[Leodance]

Because she has always liked life, that can be seen from the past. And even in her harder times she still manage to find some happiness, was hard but she did 

[uwannapieceofme]

1 hour ago, Leodance said:

Because she has always liked life, that can be seen from the past. And even in her harder times she still manage to find some happiness, was hard but she did 

i was thinking the same thing. seeing how evident it is that she was so full of life and loved it makes it even harder to stomach that this happened to her

[Danielle1987]

She was drugged up. She wasn’t there in spirit. She was a shell. 

[tsss]

She gives me strength. My life turned 180 this year but every time I think about her and how she's still standing I have motivation to keep going.  I'm also the same age as she was when they put her into c-ship. It seems so crazy when you see it from the similar perspective. Sometimes I get recommended her old interviews on youtube and it makes me cry how much she always talked about her family. So messed up.