Would you like to have kids?

[FreeBritBrit]

Do you want to have kids or no?

Personally, I'm horrified of the idea of having any kids- even adopted ones. I don't like them, can't stand them but I admire people who are parents, especially good parents.

I hated my whole childhood and I wanted to grow up so fast and everything kids related annoys me. I was also beaten alot while I was a kid and while growing up. I'd be scared I'd behave the same or worse towards my kids if I ever had them.

And I also don't believe in love at all. I'm 100% sure there is NO PERSON alive on this planet I'd sacrifice myself and have kids with. It seems like a mental and physical torture. There is no guy on this planet I'd do that **** for.

Props to everyone who believes in love and does all that. I don't. Also, I'm pushing 30 so it's not something like- oh you're young, you'll meet someone. No. I've already been long enough on this planet to know none of that is for me.

[Henry M. Torres]

Who knows, definitely not in my 20s. Career is the most important thing to me now

I can totally imagine in the future having for example a beautiful son and loving him hard and doing everything for him

But I'm a kid myself now and I don't wanna be around kids cause ew

I won't be like a regular dad, I'll be a cool dad - that's for sure

[Bunkywoo]

I would love to have children but not sure they are in my cards. Yet it would be an honor. Almost had a friend , her and I were going to try.. yet she went down the wrong path. It would have been selfish and complicated. May foster down the road and try to adopt .  Yet blessed with some amazing nieces and nephews. Also uncle to many of my friends children .  Kids are amazing . I wish it was simple to have children. Yet amazing Uncle here.  I use to get sad. Yet learned to be thankful . 

[Adriannn]

I would love to, but this world is going from bad to worse. 

[FreeBritBrit]

2 hours ago, Adriannn said:

I would love to, but this world is going from bad to worse. 

That's a huge factor for me too- I don't want more people suffering the whole bs. Climate sucks, pandemic is running wild, economy is ****ty... And how am I supposed to parent a kid when so many kids are terminally online? If I forbid them the internet, it would be helicopter parenting. If I let them use it, god knows what they would find...

So its easier for me to have pets.

[BUWYGF]

Ew, God no. For multiple reasons.

1. This world is fuc*ked up and is getting worse and worse with each year. God knows what type of horrors the future generations will be facing
2. Humans as species are becoming worse and worse and more evil with each year, I don't want to condemn another person to have to deal with them for their whole life
3. I want to spend my money on myself. I want to be able to travel even in my 40s and 50s and still look good even then by affording a personal trainer and a healthy nutrition
4. I'm not ready to sacrifice my entire life and everything I desire just so a mini-me could have a nice childhood and education – simple as that, I'm too selfish.
5. And, I don't want to have kids just so I don't "end up alone" and so "Someone could take care of me in my old age and be with me as I'm dying." 90% of people have children for these reasons, and it's completely wrong and selfish. No wonder so many families are falling apart with parents so selfish.

 

[Mar B.]

This is such a hard decision I believe. I agree that the world is not the ideal place to bring a child to and it's not getting any better. Leaving that aside I'm not even sure if I see myself as a mother, I mean I know I'd love them, but I'm not really used to being around kids since I'm the youngest in the family and I get a little anxious around them, I just don't have the patience lol so still haven't made up my mind about it, the only thing I always knew is if I have them, I want to be younger than my mom was when she had me (35), and that's 9 years away from now so who knows

[FreeBritBrit]

51 minutes ago, BUWYGF said:

Ew, God no. For multiple reasons.

1. This world is fuc*ked up and is getting worse and worse with each year. God knows what type of horrors the future generations will be facing
2. Humans as species are becoming worse and worse and more evil with each year, I don't want to condemn another person to have to deal with them for their whole life
3. I want to spend my money on myself. I want to be able to travel even in my 40s and 50s and still look good even then by affording a personal trainer and a healthy nutrition
4. I'm not ready to sacrifice my entire life and everything I desire just so a mini-me could have a nice childhood and education – simple as that, I'm too selfish.
5. And, I don't want to have kids just so I don't "end up alone" and so "Someone could take care of me in my old age and be with me as I'm dying." 90% of people have children for these reasons, and it's completely wrong and selfish. No wonder so many families are falling apart with parents so selfish.

 

Amen

This goes for every year of my 20s:

 

 

30s and 40s prob. won't  be any different. The thought my grandma got married at 15, mom at 23 (and she was considered old at 23) and I'm here... basically being the balkan version of the right picture at the end of my 20s, hitting 30s

[Geralt_of_Rivia]

Good question. I'd love to become a parent one day but there are too many If's and when's which probably stems from the times we live in. I honestly don't know if it's possible with me for many reasons. The main one being that I'm not brave enough.

[stanLOONA]

I didn't like it kids even when I was a kid

[BUWYGF]

2 hours ago, Geralt_of_Rivia said:

Good question. I'd love to become a parent one day but there are too many If's and when's which probably stems from the times we live in. I honestly don't know if it's possible with me for many reasons. The main one being that I'm not brave enough.

we can make kids together baby

[FreeBritBrit]

3 minutes ago, BUWYGF said:

we can make kids together baby

No *****, wait a minute. Count to -

 

 

[ExXL]

Sometimes I'm trying to imagine that , that after my 20's or towards 40 maybe .... But honestly I don't think I want to bring a poor soul into this sick world ...... Things are only getting worse and I don't think populating the planet is something we're getting encouraged to do anymore .... 

[Adriannn]

9 hours ago, FreeBritBrit said:

That's a huge factor for me too- I don't want more people suffering the whole bs. Climate sucks, pandemic is running wild, economy is ****ty... And how am I supposed to parent a kid when so many kids are terminally online? If I forbid them the internet, it would be helicopter parenting. If I let them use it, god knows what they would find...

So its easier for me to have pets.

Exactly... being a parent is a constant worry. Sometimes, even when they try their best, kids turn out not so good, influenced by all they see. I worked with children for several years and it's the reason that makes me want to be a parent, and the same time, all I saw and heard makes me not... I don't know if I make any sense 

[ObsessedBritFan1]

Yes, if I my child was Rory Gilmore. Sadly ... that isn't always the case. Knowing me, my child will likely open a OnlyFans account to get through medical school onto do cosmetic surgery on pen 15s. 

[Isla]

I don’t. It just seems a lot of hard work and as someone who gets easily stressed I don’t think I could be up to the challenge. I just want to live my life thriving in a career, buying a dream home and hopefully getting married. But my future partner has to be respectful of my wishes. 

[FreeBritBrit]

Glad to see I'm not the only one not wanting kids. I think this topic is still a huge tabboo. If you openly say you don't want kids, people tend to be like- that's so selfish, not everything is about you, we are all going extinct...

 

And I don't agree at all. It would be more selfish to put more people on this planet just to suffer in a horrible Black-Mirror-like reality. I highly doubt I'd be good or a great parent. Probably I'd be a horrible one and my kids would not have a proper parent figures, they would grow up on the internet, I'd most likely wouldn't be able to give them good education...

 

And maybe I am a bit selfish. I do want to focus on myself only. I'm my own priority. Kids are a mental, emotional, physical long term sacrifice I wouldn't make for anyone. I love single life with no obligations towards anyone. You can get the D without being married and chained to anyone and owing having kids to societies expectations

 

And also, I'm still a huge kid myself in a way - I like avoiding adult world bs

[gapeach704]

Me. But my boyfriend won’t stop working all the time and is afraid of committing 😩😩😩

But celebrity wise, Britney of course! And Jade from Little Mix

[Touch my Toto]

I swallow kids, I don't have them 💅

[Touch my Toto]

On 11/17/2021 at 7:33 AM, FreeBritBrit said:

Do you want to have kids or no?

Personally, I'm horrified of the idea of having any kids- even adopted ones. I don't like them, can't stand them but I admire people who are parents, especially good parents.

I hated my whole childhood and I wanted to grow up so fast and everything kids related annoys me. I was also beaten alot while I was a kid and while growing up. I'd be scared I'd behave the same or worse towards my kids if I ever had them.

And I also don't believe in love at all. I'm 100% sure there is NO PERSON alive on this planet I'd sacrifice myself and have kids with. It seems like a mental and physical torture. There is no guy on this planet I'd do that **** for.

Props to everyone who believes in love and does all that. I don't. Also, I'm pushing 30 so it's not something like- oh you're young, you'll meet someone. No. I've already been long enough on this planet to know none of that is for me.

This really hits home because i am the same way, I'm the only one at family gatherings with no children while all my other siblings are there with theirs.