What are your thoughts on cheating?

[anthony7226]

Cheating is a symptom of a lot of different things; lack of trust, jealousy, previous traumas, insecurties, etc. But let's be clear, there is cheating and there is lying. I don't condone cheating, but I do also think that we put way too much emphasis on what we do with our own bodies. My body and what I do with it are my own choices. Your body and what you do with it are your own choices. What I do with my body doesn't mean I love someone differently. However, it is up to me to communicate that with my partner(s) ahead of time and it does require a lot of checking in throughout the course of a relationship. For me, I draw the line at emotional affairs as those tend to do the most damage. You wanna drunk make out with someone? Sure. Feel like you wanna see what they're like naked? Go for it. But leave it at that. If you're establishing an emotional connection outside of **** buddies or friends, we're gonna have problems. Also, don't bring any infections home with you either. 

[Haha-Hehe-Haha-Ho]

I’ve been the cheater before and this thread is making me feel horrible about myself. 
 

I guess I made this bed, time to lie in it 

[ObsessedBritFan1]

1 minute ago, Haha-Hehe-Haha-Ho said:

I’ve been the cheater before and this thread is making me feel horrible about myself. 
 

I guess I made this bed, time to lie in it 

What are your thoughts on this? Any insights?

[Haha-Hehe-Haha-Ho]

11 minutes ago, ObsessedBritFan1 said:

What are your thoughts on this? Any insights?

Well I agree that cheating is morally wrong and I’d hate for anyone to do that to me (though I feel like a hypocrite for saying that). The reason I did it was because I was insecure and feeling horrrrny and I didn’t think anyone would find out but I suppose the excuses don’t really matter. I did get caught and I almost lost the love of my life over it so I regret it tremendously. I hurt my spouse so much and I hate that I’ve heightened their insecurity and fear of abandonment permanently. Some people may think it’s unhealthy but I’ve had to give up some basic privacy in order to keep my spouse and that really sucks. For example, I have to share my passwords and location and hand over my phone at a moments notice. It’s not ideal but I’ll do what I need to keep them. Even with all this, I’ve slipped up sometimes and had some close calls. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. 

[ExXL]

What could we possibly say about cheating, it's disgusting and wrong, but also there are some specific situations where I wouldn't judge because some people are stuck in relationships but bottom line , cheating and risking your partner with std is absolutely wrong obviously , if people have a choice they should just break up and stop cheating ..... 

[King B.]

Living in sin is the new thing yeah

[ObsessedBritFan1]

6 minutes ago, King B. said:

Living in sin is the new thing yeah

I WANT IT ALL 

[ObsessedBritFan1]

On 6/1/2021 at 10:27 AM, Haha-Hehe-Haha-Ho said:

Well I agree that cheating is morally wrong and I’d hate for anyone to do that to me (though I feel like a hypocrite for saying that). The reason I did it was because I was insecure and feeling horrrrny and I didn’t think anyone would find out but I suppose the excuses don’t really matter. I did get caught and I almost lost the love of my life over it so I regret it tremendously. I hurt my spouse so much and I hate that I’ve heightened their insecurity and fear of abandonment permanently. Some people may think it’s unhealthy but I’ve had to give up some basic privacy in order to keep my spouse and that really sucks. For example, I have to share my passwords and location and hand over my phone at a moments notice. It’s not ideal but I’ll do what I need to keep them. Even with all this, I’ve slipped up sometimes and had some close calls. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. 

I think that's condemnable that you are making active efforts to improve these self-destructive behaviours. That's a lot better than continuing that repetitive cycle of cheating.