Comparing yourself to others on social media sucks (new vlog!)

[Jordan Miller]

Hey Exhale! The other day I was scrolling through Instagram and before I knew it I was feeling down. I forgot how easy it is sometimes to slip into this mode where you compare yourself to everyone which never leads to anywhere good. I just have to remember that Instagram is not reality. One way I escape from the digital toxicity is by running to the gym (I know big surprise lol). 

Do any of you ever feel this way? What do you do? Would love to hear from you in the comments.

PS - forgot to mention in the video 🤦🏼‍♂️  the shirt I'm wearing says HWPO - that stands for "hard work pays off." 

[MortalMarshmallow]

I compare myself to noone but my yesterday self .

At least i like to convince myself of that cuz it feels like a healthy thing to do. Cant compete with photoshop, filters and Victoria's Secret anyway .  

[GMFlop]

I don't use social media apart from reddit so I'm ok. 

[ChromaticaGlory]

I've had to do a social media cleanse a couple of times, and it felt amazing. I don't use social media as much anymore because I've had to learn that I shouldn't define my worth based on likes, and comments. Trust me. It's unhealthy, and it can bring down your confidence, and self-esteem 

[rower2222]

This site is the most social media and reddit(I only read post but it's usually about questions like why am I not losing weight) that i use. I have instagram and Facebook but to me, most of the times people make fools of themselves and I enjoy it evily. I also have to say, it is brave to put yourself out there but my experiences are for me, not for someone to casually look at and like. I am much happier not using it then I was back in the day when I cared. The people who I use to care if they liked something, turned out not to be so important. 

Last note is social media allows people to gain a profile of who you are by what you like and post. I dont like that aspect of it and these new algorithms can predict your behavior based off that stuff.... just saying. 

Good vlog and like the discussion, sorry I am not modern enough haha.

 

[Jordan Miller]

13 minutes ago, MortalMarshmallow said:

I compare myself to noone but my yesterday self .

At least i like to convince myself of that cuz it feels like a healthy thing to do. Cant compete with photoshop, filters and Victoria's Secret anyway .  

Yea I try to be conscious about NOT comparing myself, but then sometimes my brain goes on autopilot and next thing you know I'm like

[MortalMarshmallow]

12 minutes ago, Jordan Miller said:

Yea I try to be conscious about NOT comparing myself, but then sometimes my brain goes on autopilot and next thing you know I'm like

But you look so fine, honestly, so you should have no worries about that .

[Haha-Hehe-Haha-Ho]

I compare myself all the time but I don't get why it has to be some pathological negative thing. I compare myself to people that are worse off than me and it makes me grateful for my circumstances and the decisions I've to put me where I am. I compare myself to people better than me and I get inspiration from them to better myself in areas where I'm lacking. 

Comparing yourself to others is 100% normal, going through life with blinders on to avoid comparisons is not healthy or realistic. As long as you're not compulsively beating yourself up over who you are then you're golden. 

[Jordan Miller]

53 minutes ago, GMFlop said:

I don't use social media apart from reddit so I'm ok. 

Nice. I consider Reddit more like a community versus social media. I feel like Reddit is more like Exhale than IG no? Thoughts? 

[Jordan Miller]

7 hours ago, ChromaticaGlory said:

I've had to do a social media cleanse a couple of times, and it felt amazing. I don't use social media as much anymore because I've had to learn that I shouldn't define my worth based on likes, and comments. Trust me. It's unhealthy, and it can bring down your confidence, and self-esteem 

Smart move!! I’ve actually tried to be on it less as of recent as well. 

[ChromaticaGlory]

16 minutes ago, Jordan Miller said:

Smart move!! I’ve actually tried to be on it less as of recent as well. 

I don't blame you! Just please look after yourself because your mental health is very important 

[StephenDallas]

Can relate so much. Good video Jordan ❤️

[Jordan Miller]

16 hours ago, rower2222 said:

This site is the most social media and reddit(I only read post but it's usually about questions like why am I not losing weight) that i use. I have instagram and Facebook but to me, most of the times people make fools of themselves and I enjoy it evily. I also have to say, it is brave to put yourself out there but my experiences are for me, not for someone to casually look at and like. I am much happier not using it then I was back in the day when I cared. The people who I use to care if they liked something, turned out not to be so important. 

Last note is social media allows people to gain a profile of who you are by what you like and post. I dont like that aspect of it and these new algorithms can predict your behavior based off that stuff.... just saying. 

Good vlog and like the discussion, sorry I am not modern enough haha.

 

Lol that GIF. Exactly. Social media isn't real. With these vlogs, I've been trying to be more authentic and genuine. So if I look like a mess, hair is crazy, eyes tired etc it's like WELP, this is me and I'm not going to throw a filter on it etc. That's why I have been having so much fun vlogging, cause I can just be me and if people don't like it then ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

[Peanut]

I don't have social media apart from breatheheavy so I don't really compare myself to anyone (xcept with some Bible characters...). Sometimes I do get a blow to my ego due to my ***ual attractions and it brings me down a bit and compare myself to the more "normal" acting and hetero***ual guys. But then I realize that I know about God and that He has chosen me to serve Him and I feel happy!😊

[jordeezy river red]

Jordan, you are still on your unique journey, as are all of us here! Don't be discouraged. 

[Jordan Miller]

On 3/29/2021 at 3:44 PM, Haha-Hehe-Haha-Ho said:

I compare myself all the time but I don't get why it has to be some pathological negative thing. I compare myself to people that are worse off than me and it makes me grateful for my circumstances and the decisions I've to put me where I am. I compare myself to people better than me and I get inspiration from them to better myself in areas where I'm lacking. 

Comparing yourself to others is 100% normal, going through life with blinders on to avoid comparisons is not healthy or realistic. As long as you're not compulsively beating yourself up over who you are then you're golden. 

I do agree with you in that comparing yourself to others is inherently neutral, and it's only when we apply specific meaning to that when things can get sticky. 

[kaledkalil]

Quite an interesting video, good luck with the channel!

Just a heads up, it would be nice to check and fix the audio for the next videos, some of them are mostly for the left side when you're speaking, and basically no audio from the right (using headphones here).

[DearBritney00]

I don't compare myself to anyone.
First since I only follow my female faves and I know I am a guy.
Second I get more insecure when someone insults me and not on pictures from others.

[Doja Kitten]

Tbh can’t relate anymore. Maybe I felt that way for a while in my early 20s but I’m in my late 20s now. Priorities change. It’s hard for me to care for others from across the world who are completely irrelevant to my own life. They are literally just pixels on a screen. 

[NastyT]

I will quote my Mom on this subject:

”When you compare yourself to others, you either feel better or worse about yourself, and neither is a good place to be.”

Be your best YOU! With that said, I am so glad I am not on social media.